Did you know that the song, “Respect” by Arethra Franklin was actually sang from a man’s point of view to a woman first, before it became a smash hit for the feminist movement in the 1960s?
Pretty crazy, I know, but it’s the truth. Us guys want respect as much you do. However, this isn’t the focus of this article. This point is about self-respect, from the female point of view.
Regardless of how long you’ve been in a relationship, you can never learn enough about understanding men. We often regarded as the intellectually inferior gender but ultimately, you have chosen to be with us because there is something of value that we have that you want.
If we’ve chosen to be committed to you, be careful to not let yourself go. A lot of women simply lose sense of themselves and dedicate themselves too much to the one man. They stop having a life and their friends get distant from them. Not a good thing to happen.
Women who don’t respect themselves are viewed and pushovers. They’re the ones who are called “easy” and who always get dumped in a relationship. They’re clingy, they’re desperate and there’s not much that’s attractive about them.
Men WANT to pursue women. A big factor in pursuing women is having the woman being desirable enough to be pursued.
So how does a woman be desirable? She has to always be aware of what she’s doing for the man and what she’s not doing.
It’s something I always do in my relationship with my girlfriend. When she asks me to do something, I just straight out tell her, “go do it yourself, you’re a big girl now.” Other times, I silently go ahead and do it without her asking.
My sister when she was younger was terrible at respecting herself. She once went all the way to her ex’s place to give him a “late” birthday present (by 3 months), only to have him say that he can’t take it home because it’s too big.
She was on a train for an hour and walked with this huge, collectible, toy race car track for half an hour to his place, only for him to turn her down.
He didn’t ask for it, she thought she’d be an awesome girlfriend for doing it. No self-respect, not a good look.
Make the effort, but get your head on straight and only do it if he respects you, because you’re respecting yourself. See, understanding men isn’t difficult. Respect yourself and we’ll respect you in return.