So you’ve just recently broken up with your ex? Break ups happen, that is a fact of life, and they also hurt, bad. Whether you got dumped, you dumped her then realized it was a mistake, it’s all not fun. I think that everyone has had at least one really bad break-up in their life at one time or another.
I still remember mine. We had been together for about a year and 3 months, and in that time we formed a very special bond. But I became extremely possessive, and way too controlling, and it started to turn the relationship toxic. And then one day, that phone call came, and I got dumped.
All I did for the next 2 weeks was just sit in my room looking at her pictures, listening to the songs we used to listen to together… Basically torturing myself, but in a way it felt good. I couldn’t go a day without hearing her voice, so I would call, sometimes repeatedly until she would pick up the phone out of pity. But the spark in her voice was gone, and I could tell she did not want to talk to me.
Anyways, this went on for a few more weeks, with me getting more and more desperate and needy as the days went by, and her getting more and more sick of me. And then eventually, she just did not pick up anymore. To me this felt like the death of hope and I pretty much felt like I wanted to die.
Why am I telling you all of this right now? Because I don’t want you to make the same mistake.. People in general, and girls especially, and your girlfriend even more especially, do NOT like neediness and desperation. If you are showing this side of yourself to your ex, you might as well give up now, because no amount of begging, crying, pleading, rationalizing will get her back.
I know it might seem like if you can just show her how much you care by crying then she will take you back. But believe me, this is just not the case. As unfair as it may seem, your girlfriend expects you to be the man, to be confident, to be strong in your self, not needing anyone else, even her!
I know this might seem crazy to you right now, but it’s so true! A girl wants a rock, a solid, dependable man who isn’t a whiny crybaby. I don’t mean to be harsh but take it from me, you will only dig yourself a deeper grave if you continue the whiny type of behavior.
I remember when I lost her, I did the same exact thing you are doing now, read up on everything I could about how to get an ex girlfriend back.
Well basically, about 2 weeks in, I decided that it was time to take drastic measures and completely change my behavior. So I gave it another 4 days or so, and then I called her up. But this time, my tone of voice was completely different, even though my insides were on fire still, I forced myself to be calm, cool and collective.
And I told her that the break-up was probably a good idea, and that we should take some time apart for a while. Her response was completely baffled, I could tell she was completely surprised by my sudden change of tone.
About a week later, the impossible happened, SHE actually invited ME to go out to lunch, just as “friends” of course.
Anyway, I really struggled to find solid information out there on how to get my ex girlfriend back, all I could find was little bits and pieces, nothing complete.