Decided that you want a former flame back in your life again? Thinking about that one special girl nonstop?
Here’s some tips on how to impress her and get her attention.
Be Different
Even if it was your idea to break up, chances are high that there is a list of things in her head that she did not like about you. The easiest way to get her attention and start winning her back is to display obvious alterations.
Think about the things she complained about while you two were a couple. A smart girl knows she can’t change a guy, and you shouldn’t change who you really are. However, if you had a tendency to be a jerk at times or treated her badly in some other way then you should start working on that if you haven’t already.
Succeed, and Have Results to Show For It
It’s cliche, but true: women are attracted to men who are successful. Sometimes it’s because they want financial security, sometimes they want bragging rights with their friends, and sometimes women just like knowing that you’ve reached your full potential.
Don’t blatantly show off material things. Instead, go for the understated display. You don’t want to make it look like you tried too hard to show off.
Give Her Something Nice That You Know She’ll Love
If you see something that reminds you of her when you’re out, buy it. The best method of giving it to her is to have it delivered to her work. If she works from home or travels a lot, send it to her home.
It doesn’t have to be outrageously expensive, although that never hurts. It could be something sentimental, like a hoodie you own that she loved and always wanted to borrow. You could send it to her with a note that reads something like: “I was cleaning out my closet and remembered how much you loved this. I want you to have it….”
Make Amends for Past Mistakes
If you said something mean that really upset her, find an opportunity to apologize. If you owe her money, pay it back as soon as possible and include a note. The note should express your gratitude for the loan, and an apology for taking so long to repay her.
Maybe you ruined something nice that she owned, either by accident or out of anger. If so, have it replaced and sent to her.
Create a Public Display of Flattery
This will seem cheesy, but it usually works like a charm. You can use any special talents that you have and get any friends who have abilities (guitar players, etc.) to help you out.
The most obvious and popular way to express affection towards her publicly is to write her a song and perform it. You can make a video of yourself performing it and post it online for all to see, or send it to her privately. This can also be done live; if you know she’ll be at her favorite lounge or coffee house on a particular date, try to get in for an open-mic. Just make sure you talk to the manager first!
If you have other skills, use whatever you have. It doesn’t have to be perfect, and you shouldn’t take yourself or this creative display too seriously. Ideally, she will laugh along with you if it’s bad. The point is that she gets that warm fuzzy feeling inside when she sees it, because that’s what you’re going for here.
Take Any Opportunity to Defend and Protect Her
If you hear someone badmouthing her, step in and defend her. If you are already lucky enough to be considered a friend again, don’t flip out and be an immature jerk when she’s going on dates. Not only will it make you look mature to be civil about her dating, but ultimately this could end up being your “in” if a guy screws up with her.
Show your protectiveness by inquiring about a guy she’s intending to see. If she’s about to leave for a first date with him and you two are talking on the phone, for example, ask her to text you and let you know she’s ok. When she asks why, tell her something like: “There’s a lot of crazies out there, you never know…”
Show Her How Considerate You Can Be
This one is easy and can work beautifully. All you have to do is be a good friend to her by listening; this way, you’ll know when you have your perfect chance to show off your sensitive side.
If you know that she has a tough project at work and is stressed out and working late, have take-out delivered to her office for her. Any situation that arises where she could use a boost, compliment, some help, etc., can be utilized.
Other examples: send her a gift certificate for her favorite store, give her gift certificates for a massage session or two, or get her two tickets for something she’ll enjoy. If you give her the tickets, make sure you express in a joking and/or flirtatious way that you wouldn’t be upset if she took you along.
