This article will point out to you, the reader, the differences between offline dating and finding a date through the many dating internet services around. While a tad contentious, there are many pros and cons to both sides of the coin, and it is up to you at the end of the day to choose a method that bests suits you. The decision, of course, still rests on your shoulders and this will be down to your personality and your beliefs about dating and matters of the heart.
While this article will not try to sway anyone to any side, it will try to give another perspective of the matter and hopefully, raise some interesting issues for debate later and even, hopefully, allow people to realise that there is more than just one way to get a date. The offline methods of dating meant here is through services like speed dating and dating agencies who specialise in events that get singles together in a place, normally in a party atmosphere, and just ‘let things happen.’
These methods are great because of the fact that there is a sense of urgency in them; speed dating is one such example – and it allows for both men and women to get a wider range of choice before settling on who they want to explore the second step with. This is also true of the party option, or the mass movie date option. The events are often fun filled and friendships form fast. The cons of these methods is that, especially for speed dating, the ball is placed in the court of the female and the deciding factor is looks – which can be an unfair disadvantage for many guys who go into speed dating. With these you don’t really have the time to find out about a person and to me, the process gets diluted into a sort of impromptu beauty pageant where the better looking ones tend to win out.
This means that only the physical aspects are considered, with emotional matching getting pushed down a rung in the social ladder. These lead to shallow instant relationships that don’t last, and only the lucky few actually get to find someone they can stick with for a long time. On the internet, it is quite similar and different at the same time. While many people do go online for a quick fix, I find that the very nature of the internet weeds out these people in the long run, with the people truly looking for love staying in dating sites till they get a match. Also, the internet is all about content, and when it comes to finding a match, information is one of the most important factors. What they like, what they don’t like, their personalities, their quirks – all can be found out through chat sessions and emails – before the eventual meet up happens. Relationships and dating should not be an ‘instant noodle’ to stave of hunger – it should sustain you for life, and this is something an online dating internet service can provide.